Mommy Monday: Halley Foulds

Nearly four years ago I traded in my 8-5 job to be a Stay at Home Mom to my then one-year-old. Even though I loved my job and I loved working, the thought of staying home with my son was much more appealing. While I knew there would be a few challenges and hiccups during the transition, part of me also thought this would be a walk in the park. And it was……. Jurassic Park. (Just kidding!) Being at home definitely isn’t as easy as it looks or sounds though. You don’t just get to sit around all day cuddling the littles and watching soap operas (or trashy reality television in my case). Just like everything else, there are precious moments & hardships that come along with this job (see my post  ‘Surviving Two’ for a little more on that!). Here is a little glimpse into my life and some of what I have learned and experienced as a full-time Stay-at-Home-Boy-Mom.

I quickly learned that being a SAHM means that in addition to keeping your tiny human(s) alive and well, you will also be cleaning…pretty much all day long. When I started this job I had twice the house I have now. Naturally, I thought when we moved to a smaller house I would have less to clean (WIN!). Nope! That’s false. I still clean just as much and maybe even more because I have two tiny humans now and back then I only had one. If I’m not just doing general house cleaning (ie: vacuuming, sweeping, wiping of surfaces), I’m doing laundry, cleaning up toys (I’m ALWAYS cleaning up toys, pick one up and 4 more are tossed down!), cleaning up after a meal, cleaning up after the dogs, cleaning something I missed the last time I cleaned that area, cleaning fingerprints off of all the windows. ENDLESS CLEANING. It never stops. You would think with all that cleaning my house would be spotless all the time, too. Nope, more untruth. There are days that I vacuum the whole house and by the time I get from one end of the house to the other end, you can’t even tell I have vacuumed.  (I make cleaning fun by incorporating my kiddos. They are too young right now to realize that cleaning is a chore, it’s still fun to them, so why not let them help!)

Another thing I quickly learned, my days of getting dressed up and “ready” were mostly over. Kinda. I still straighten my hair most days and get blush and mascara on. However, if you find me in something other than a velour jumpsuit or yoga/workout pants, consider yourself lucky! In my opinion and as the ‘doer of all the laundry’, there is no need for me to get dressed in pants or jeans and a cute top and then later that evening when I go to workout, change into my workout gear. I’m not going to see anyone except for my husband and kids so I’ll just dirty up one outfit with snot and lunch particles and save the other for a day when I am out in public trying to blend in with the rest of the world. I call this life lesson, Embracing the Yoga Pants and I challenge other SAHM’s to this as well. You will thank me later!

Playing off the last lesson, I’m also guilty of doing this with my kids. Yeah, I said it. On the days that my oldest doesn’t have preschool and we don’t go outside of the house, I may or may not change my kids out of their pajamas! They don’t seem to mind and my thought is, “why dirty up another outfit and create more laundry?!”. Many of our days are pajama-casual days!

I learned that there would be plenty of days that NOTHING gets accomplished. Some days I had intentions of being so productive and the stars just weren’t aligned in my favor. I’m really hard on myself on these days because I have my own expectations of what I should get done and I’m a creature of habit, so when things don’t go as planned it makes my head spin and throws my whole day off. Unfortunately, it doesn’t matter how crazy those days make me, they still happen.

In all the madness, I have learned how thankful I am for my friends. I am especially thankful for the friends I have that are in similar situations as me and know the struggle. You know the one(s). The one you can take the kids over to their house, pop open a bottle of wine and vent to in your yoga pants while the kids play in the other room. THAT friend! Friends are essential in getting through not only motherhood but life and I feel so blessed to have great ones.

I also learned that panic and anxiety doesn’t stop when you become a SAHM. I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks and I was sure when I left my 8-5 job I would be leaving that behind as well. Wrong again. I still have anxiety and panic attacks, maybe not the same way I did when I was working outside of the home, but it hasn’t gone away completely and why would it? I’m still working… I still have a job. I just went from servicing insurance policies to full-time housekeeping, chef, teacher, accountant and chauffeur to my much younger bosses. The lesson: every momma has breakdown moments and a SAHM is no exception.

The most important lesson I learned is that this time with my children is priceless. It’s not always going to be perfect. Crankiness, teething, diapers and meltdowns (seriously, Surviving Two <– Read it) will get in the way sometimes. But still, occasionally, everything goes according to plan and we have our perfect days. What seems hard now will be over in an instant so do your best to cherish every moment!

To follow Halley or get in touch with her:

Halley@Momatello.com

Self Care Sunday

20 Things To Give Yourself Permission for:

1.) Rest
2.) To laugh
3.) To play
4.) Make mistakes
5.) To say “no”  to demands on my time that are simply draining
6.) To say “yes” to what I want
7.) To fulfill my childhood/lifelong dreams
8.) To ask for what I want
9.) To be who I am
10.) To try again
11.) To have fun
12.) To design my own life
13.) To ignore the haters
14.) To stay focused on what’s important to me
15.) To be whatever body shape I want to be
16.) To be imperfect
17.) To ASK FOR HELP
18.) To stop caring what others think of me
19.) To write a shitty first draft
20.) To create

Self Care Sunday!!

Happy Sunday Funday/Self Care Sunday!

Helloooo my Lovely Lioness Ladies!! How has your weekend been?  Mine has been pretty productive, which I”m pretty excited about!!

 

I’ve got ALL KINDS of new and wonderful things coming to the Site VERY SOON! SO GET EXCITED!!!!!!!!  Staring in October, which is today, can you believe it?!?! I SURE CAN’T!

So anyway! Our first order of business is a NEW posting schedule for the blog which will be as follows staring this month, not all at once so you don’t get overloaded and overwhelmed! But over the month of October ALL KINDS of new and lovely content will be right at your fingertips!::

  • Monday — Mommy Monday’s starting October 9th (Click on the “Mommy Mondays” tab to be considered as a Guest Mommy Blogger!

 

  • Tuesdays — Take a break Tuesdays, Something inspirational and short & sweet!!

 

  • Wednesday– Wednesday Wisdom ( I’ll post what I learned from the latest Research I’ve been reading, in an easy to understand kind of way!

 

  • Thursday — Bossfidence Column ( In case you didn’t know, I also write for another blog called Bossfidence —- “This generation of millennial boss babes refuses to fit that mold; they are bursting through the barriers with a rebel outcry with the need to have a seat at the table. Bossfidence is taking initiative and control of your destiny through entrepreneurship, thought leadership and relationship building.” -Ashley Dunham, Bossfidence Founder)

 

  • Friday – Feature Friday- For this day I will feature guest bloggers, plus reviews for TV Shows & Netflix reccommendations

 

  • Saturday – Saturday Stories will be guest blogging (open to anyone) If you need a safe space to tell your story and get encouragement in return. This will be perfect for you!!

 

  • Sunday – Self Care Sundays – Self Care Sundays will include suggestions from muah on how to take better care of yourself and some new and different ideas for accomplishing self care.

I Figured I would start today’s Self Care Sunday with the results from my “Quest for the Best Podcast” survey!!

I did a survey across many different platforms, asking for people’s favorite Podcasts. And BOY did I get some good responses!!

After getting so many suggestions, I decided to make a list of all the Podcasts I came up with to share with those of you who are just getting started in the Podcasts world and need some guidance on where to begin!! We’ll you’re in luck! I have come up with THE BEST list of Podcasts ever made EVER!!! 🙂

ALSO this evening in my Smart Lioness Pride group on Facebook (FREE) at 5:30 CST Laura Lee Stjernstrom from LL Yoga Online will be providing your with a FREE mini Meditation to get your week started off to a great start! One of the best forms of self care is Meditation! Make sure you join my group so you can tune in!! Just click here to Join my group!!

If you’re interested in joining Laura Lee’s online yoga group you can click here to contact her!

AND FINALLY, if you made it this far you deserve my list of the BEST Podcasts EVER! 🙂 Kidding, but there are all different kinds for all different folks!! Podcasts are good to help you relax as well as learn something new or just straight up entertain you!!

 

Now for your greatest list of Podcasts EVER!

 

1.) The Love Bomb                                                     2.) Anna Farris is Unqualified

3.) That’s So Retrograde                                            4.) Sword & Scale

5.) Brain Candy                                                           6.) How I Built This

7.) Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations                       8.) Girlboss

9.) Strong Opinions Loosely Held                             10.) Lady Gang

11.) Dear Sugars                                                       12.) Hidden Brain

13.) The Art of Charm                                                14.) Earn Your Happy

15.) Optimal Living Daily                                            16.) No Philter

17.) Goal Digger with Jenna Kutcher                         18.) Don’t Keep Your Day Job

19.) Dudesplaining                                                      20.) Gary Vee

21.) You Should Remember This                                22.) Chasing Glory with Lillian Garcia

23.) Being Boss                                                          24.) Off the Vine with Kaitlyn Bristowe

25.) Revisionist History                                              26.) Bare Naked Bravery

27.) Tim Ferriss                                                         28.) Melyssa Griffin’s Pursuit with Purchase

29.) The Model Health Show                                    30.) Brendon Burchard

31.) Tony Robbins                                                     32.) The Hilarious World of Depression

33.) My Brother, My Brother, & Me                           34.) Hello from Magic Tavern

35.) The Flop House                                                36.) She Did it Her Way

37.) Stuff Mom Never Told You                               38.) Pantsuit Politics

39.) Betch Slapped                                                 40.) Almost 30

41.) Wait Wait Don’t Tell Me                                    42.) Curiosity

43.) S Town                                                              44.) Casefiles

45.) My Favorite Murder                                           46.) And That’s Why we Drink

47.) From the Front Porch                                        48.) What Should I Read Next

49.) Bitch Sesh                                                         50.) The School of Greatness

51.) Celia Cavalli                                                       52.) Tiny Leaps Big Changes

53.) Women Wanting More                                       54.) The Grift

55.) You Need A Budget                                           56.) Marie Forleo

57.) Loveline with Amber Rose (Rated R)                58.) Up First (NPR)

59.) Teaching in Higher Ed                                       60.) The Thread

61.) The Divided States of Women                          61.) Cults

62.) The Kremlin Playbook                                       63.) Dirty John

64.) Every Little Thing                                              65.) Mindshift Podcast

66.) Modern Love                                                    67.) The Morning Breath

68.) Death, Sex, & Money                                       70.) Pod Save America

71.) Strange Indeed                                                72.) Rough Translation

73.) Hollywood & Crime                                         74.) Secrets, Crimes, & Audiotapes

75.) Lore                                                                 76.) The Breakfast Club

77.) Selfie with Kristen Howerton & Sarah James

78.) The Good Life Project                                     79.) The Way I Heard it with Mike Rowe

80.) My Dad Wrote a Porno                                    81) Small Town Murder

82.) Sleep with Me: The Podcast that Puts You to Sleep

83.) The Nerdist                                                      84.) On Being with Krista Trippett

85.) Where Should We Begin                                 86.) Brains On!

87.) Still Processing                                                88.) Pop Culture Happy Hour

89.) The Brilliant Idiots                                            90.) Mama Bear Dares

91.) Motivated                                                         92.) Meditation Minis

93.) Not Too Deep with Grace Helbig                      94.) Sexplanations

95.) Simplify                                                             96.) Serial Killers

97.) TED Radio Hour                                                98.) The Butterfly Effect

99.) The Lively Show                                               100.) The Minds of Madness

 

To download a PDF copy of my list of Podcasts you can click here->    PodCast Quest Enjoy!!
Let me know in the comments which are your favorites or which ones you plan to try out!!

 

 

 

 

 

What Do You Mean.. “Unapologetically Me?”

“Unapologetically Me”

What does it mean to be “unapologetically me?” That’s the question, I have had on my mind lately, the “way of living” I’m trying to describe to you, and myself. I know it when I see it! That’s for sure! When you think of people who are unapologetically themselves, who do you think of?

First person that comes to my mind is, Wendy Williams! I just love that woman! She is just completely herself, or she’s a damn good actress because she seems genuine AF to me!

Another badass lady that comes to my mind is Lucille Ball! Hell! One of my favorite quotes is from Lucy herself, “Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.” And clearly, Lucille Ball had shit figured out! Now more than ever, is it important to remember this quote! So many people lose themselves in their partner, in their work, or into their problems, because we all, at least at some point in our lives, fail to follow this BASIC, BUT KEY RULE, of living a fulfilling and happy life!!

WHY? Why, Do we do this to ourselves?
  1. We think it’s our religious or Christian duty.

We think it’s our religious duty to “put others first, before ourselves,” or “make sacrifices.”  But God did not mean for us to do so at our expenses.  Become “one flesh” does not mean that you lose yourself in your husband, it means you make a life together, and you share an intimacy & bond that entwines your souls together, so you don’t have to lose yourself.  Your relationship is intimate not only sexually, but more importantly, emotionally.

2. We have damaged boundaries, or a lack of boundaries all together.

Our boundaries are our property lines, and what separates us, and what keeps us protected from other people. If you don’t have boundaries, it’s like being in a dark, dangerous alley at night and not expecting something bad to happen. Our boundaries keep us from being emotionally hurt or abused. Our boundaries are those lines that we lay down with everyone in our life, the people that love us and respect our boundaries have no problem dealing with this, however the people in your life that have boundary issues, will not handle it so smoothly.

3. We don’t value ourself, or know our own worth.

If you are the same woman that doesn’t take care of herself, because “she’s trying to be a good Christian,” did you forget that being a Christian means you are a child of God, born in his image. There’s worth in simply being that, girl! OPEN YOUR EYES! God made you to be some thing completely and totally unique, but you can’t see it because you’re too busy counting the wrinkles that keep popping up, or too busy pretending you are happy and fulfilled to realize you have totally lost your worth, your respect for yourself.

 

If you are guilty of one or all three of the above reasons I listed, PLEASE consider signing up for my NEW Program beginning October 1st. It is an 8 week interactive program that not only teaches you how to make a lifestyle change but helps provides everything you need to commit to living a life that’s yours!!

Do you feel like you base your happiness and worth on what other people think of you? 

Do you put everyone else’s feelings as priorities, but not your own? 

Is heartbreak becoming way too familiar to you? 

Are you experiencing more stress/anxiety & fear than you are health & happiness?

Well then, my Lovely Lioness, it’s time to make a change!! The first step starts with investing in yourself!!

 

  • 8 Lioness Lessons over the course of 8 weeks (Weekly Live videos)

– 8 Yoga Classes with Laura Lee Stjernstrom

– 6 Color Me Quickers – Adults That Love Coloring Adult Coloring Sheets


– Budgeting PDFs From Bossfidence


– 2 Workouts with Saje Cox Loftin from #SajeCoxFitness Sisters


+Plus: Gratitude Journal PDF, Self Love Journal Page, Goal Setting PDF, Self Assessments AND MORE SURPRISES ARE IN THE WORKS!!! 

+AND — I’m like having your very own Tinkerbell/Fairy Godmother/Cheerleader all in one!! 😉 You Message me & almost always get an IMMEDIATE answer!

Pay once for the Full 8 week program- $150 & SAVE $50
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When we invest money in ourselves and in our own personal development & growth, we tend to invest more emotionally as well. When you spend money on something, aren’t you going to try and get your money’s worth?? WELL you SHOULD! A Smart Lioness ALWAYS DOES!

Click here to sign up for “Unapologetically Me” Full 8 Weeks

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The Smart Lioness Challenges You to — DARE TO ROAR!!

 

 

 

Lioness Ladies!!!

How are you doing on this lovely Sunday morning?? (Whatever time it is, where you are). Today’s blog post I write with total excitement because my new challenge Dare to Roar starts tomorrow!!

This Challenge is FREE & will be 7 Days!

 

We’ll discuss:

  • What is your personality type?

  • What is your love language?

  • Who are you REALLY?

  • What are your values?

  • What is your purpose?

Clearly there is more to it than those 5 questions but I can’t give away all the juicy details, now can I??

My goal for this challenge is for you to come out of it with a greater awareness for yourself, your needs, wants, & attitudes. Ways that you can strengthen your weaknesses & build your strengths!

Laura Lee Stjernstrom will be providing our Smart Lioness Pride group on Facebook with a live mini meditation to get the ball rolling! Then  I will be live shortly after Laura Lee to get this party started!! (I’ll be live at 7:30 btw).

If you ever have any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask in the comments! I always see them!!

I hope that you ladies have a wonderful rest of your Sunday before we have to go back to the real world on Monday!! But, hey, at least you have Dare to Roar to look forward to this week!

 

If there is a certain topic you would like me to discuss, please just let me know!! I’ll be happy to do whatever I can to help you ladies out!

Oh yeah and if you haven’t signed up for my Weekly Newsletter: Lioness Lately — A Weekly Love Letter for the Lioness Lady that comes every Monday to turn those Monday blues into Monday Pinks & Yellows! 😀

 

Click here to sign up for my Dare to Roar Challenge!!

 

See you soon my lovlies!

Live in the Smart Lioness Pride group!

Until next time,

Be passionate

Be Brave 

Be YOU!

Sending you lost of love and light,

Hillary the Smart Lioness