1.) My name is Hillary Montijo
2.) I have been married for 3 years to my best friend Paul Montijo
3.) We have three fur babies – two dogs (Zoe, Chihuahua) (Archer, Doberman) (Penny, Rescue Street Kitty)
4.) I have a Bachelors Degree in Human Development & Family Studies and a Minor in Social Work
5.) I have a Masters’ Degree in Clinical Mental Health
6.) I have experience working with clients in sex and porn addictions, trauma, & abuse and domestic violence.
7.) My heart is with working with women who have been in domestic violence type relationships.
8.) I’m a book nerd! I love to read and am always reading a book!
9.) I have been to around 10 countries in Europe thanks to my parents who are both educators and took me and my brother on Summer educational tours with the college my Dad and Uncle were teaching at the time.
10.) I am super empathetic and pick up on people’s feelings and energies really easily, which comes in handy with my work
What lead me to want to help and empower women was the fact that I was in an abusive relationship for four years. It took me time to even realize I was being abused believe it or not. He wasn’t hitting me, but his words were killing me one sentence at a time. It completely changed me and who I was. After I finally got out of the relationship I didn’t even know who I was anymore. How could I? He told me who I was. Now I had the ability to think for myself and, I didn’t know how to!
However, I had some amazingly supportive friends (the ones I hadn’t completely isolated myself from) that helped get me back to reality. And was in school at Auburn for Human Develop
ment and Family studies, and learned so much from my classes. But I also participated in therapy and starting dealing with “my stuff.” I learned about myself, figured out my values, and who I really was after I washed off all of that toxic layer of shit I had allowed myself to believe. And in doing so I was able to begin feeling like a real human again, and with time and work on myself with the help of multiple therapists and friends I turned my nightmare of a past into something I can use to help others. If I can help other women avoid getting into a relationship like I did, or if they were unable to avoid it and have been in a toxic relationship or are currently in a toxic relationship then I want to help them get out and get their identities back. Because it gets lost somewhere along the way.
That’s kind of where “The Smart Lioness” comes from, its kind of like my vision of the end result of the transformation from a woman who is lost and hurt into this beautiful, intelligent, and powerful lioness who is capable of anything. Its more of a symbol of hope or of that goal that you seek but never actually completely reach because its a personal development goal and hopefully personal development and growth never ends. To stay truly mentally healthy we should always be learning and growing.
So with that being said, I’m constantly working on “unleashing my inner lioness” and want to encourage other women to do the same. You may not believe that she’s in there, but she is, and with time and effort you will gradually start to believe it too.
No matter what you have gone through in your past, you don’t have to stay there, you can get “unstuck” and move forward, and you too CAN be that Lioness you so badly want to be.
Whatever your view of being a “lioness” is, I can give you the genuine support and guidance you need to be successful in your journey. Just think of me as your new, very own Tinkerbell/Fairy GodMother/Cheerleader/ Coach!! That’s not complicated or difficult to understand at all right??